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The “Holidays” are over but grief continues. Ask that of anyone who is grieving. As I’ve stated before, holidays may trigger more intense grief reactions, but the bereaved may be triggered by “anything” or "nothing at all”. I suggest you reread my previous blogs to review how to support someone who is grieving as well as yourself with care and compassion.
My hope for the New Year is that 2016 be a healing year for you and your loved ones.
– Harriet
This is the season for gift giving. It’s a perfect time to give yourself the gifts of compassion and patience. It’s called “healthy selfishness” and it’s OK especially when you are grieving. Some suggestions for you:
And give yourself permission to "just be". May your holiday be healing.
– Harriet
Thanksgiving began a holiday season that can be particularly difficult for the bereaved. While grief “triggers” know no calendar, holidays evoke memories of friends, family, food and fun. Therefore, holidays represent our friend. After the death of a loved one, the very same holiday can become our foe.
You might hear someone say, “I don’t want to put up my decorations”, “I won’t host the holiday dinner”, or “I’m not buying gifts.” How can you support a grieving friend or family member? The kindest gift to offer is to listen and take your cues from them. Offer NO advice and do NOT judge. Offer to help with a specific task in mind.
At this holiday season, give the gifts of compassion and patience.
– Harriet